Homegirl,
In my last message to you, I talked about the need to bring out the gems that has been deposited into you by our Father in Heaven, and I promised to discuss how we could go about this. I will get to it shortly. First, I feel a need to talk to you about the need to conquer some things that I call Killjoys.
Killjoys are stuffs that hold us back from enjoying the fullness of God’s grace given to us freely through the finished work of Christ Jesus, our Lord, the blessing of people He has positioned in our lives, and from living life and enjoying it to the fullest.
They are Killjoys—they kill joy.
The number one culprit— echoes of the past. This include your past experiences, particularly negative ones, and growing-up challenges that have moulded your perspective, your mentality, attitude and behaviour. No matter how high up you are in life, there remains a vestige that grows out from time to time; disturbing joy and making you forfeit opportunities.
I know of a firebrand, tongues-speaking woman who sees every close female, including her daughters, as a potential rival. She is nice to you until something brings you to her territory to stay for a while. She couldn’t open her arms to let you into her heart, her space. She reads meaning into everything you do. I got to know she grew up from a polygamous home. Then I understood.
Another lady I know wouldn’t let any guy into her heart, and several good ones have come; her daddy treated her mother badly when she was growing up.
It is hard, so hard, but we need to let go of these narratives, purge our minds and souls of the pains and embrace the real experience we were meant to have—the original intention of the Father for us. Have you not read? He said and I quote, “the thoughts I have towards you are good and not evil to give you an expected end, a future and a hope.” However, we have to first empty our minds, our thoughts, our hearts, our lives, of what was or is (these echoes) and allow Him refill us with what is supposed to be, which is joy unspeakable with the freedom to live, to love and to be fulfilled.
Again, no other tool will do this better than the good old Bible. Hey Girl, you need to get into the Word! This can never be overemphasized because it is true. There is actually no other way.
If KJV is Greek to you, start with the contemporary versions (RSV, GNB and AMP and MSG versions are cool). Do not read it with the intention to get out-of-this-world revelations. You might never do because you have already put a pressure on yourself. Read, study and meditate on it like what it is—God’s love message to you.
Be open-minded, be interested; and revelation will come! Trust me, it works.
Loneliness!
Ah, loneliness. That is the second culprit I want us to beware of. I have always heard aloneness is different from loneliness, but I say aloneness, though has its own importance, can easily lead to loneliness.
Loneliness is a terrible feeling, no wonder us girls are always desperate to avoid it by avoiding being alone which leads us to wrong relationships especially with the opposite sex.
Wrong relationships re-direct our steps in an about-turn manner from love, fulfillment and joy in its fullness.
I understand loneliness needs to be avoided but it should be done in a healthy way and there are plenty of them.
I just heard the tumbling of my pots and pans. The boys are it again. I have to run along now!
We will tie this up in my next mail to you.
Till then, stay beautiful!
Your Homegirl,
Adeyinka Oresanya
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